The complicatedness of relatedness comes from what’s underneath the surface. The emotional landscape. For most it is a barren wasteland of memory, fears, pain, trauma, and things left unexamined, unhealed. When you are falling for someone’s eyes, the way their mouth moves when they talk, and all the things that create your perfect little fantasy world, and not paying attention to who this person is down under… it is no wonder most women are stupified when they are crying to me, he’s not who I thought he was.
Well, HONEY, I hate to break it to you, but you weren’t really looking beneath the surface in the first place.
If you value surface above substance and the package more than what’s inside then you reap what you sew.
Don’t be so desperate for someone on adultfrienedfinder you are willing to turn a blind eye.
Look at what is arising as information for what is truly happening. Don’t pretend what’s happening is not happening and stick your head in the sand.
Above all, you be the authority on how you value yourself, and if you are not getting what you want from a man, and he’s unwilling to grow his being, do yourself a favor and go get what you want. Don’t waste your time with a man who doesn’t value growth. It’s a dead end.
Thinking that a man will love you if you self-sacrifice and show him how much you will let him walk all over you in order for you to get your needs met is just DUMB.
Men want women they respect, and if you don’t respect yourself, if you are willing to have less than what you deserve, well, he’s just playing out the pain in the ass you need to wake the fuck up and choose better alternative such as thrusting vibrators.
No one can tell you how to get what you want in life and love.
You have to KNOW and FEEL your own value in order to call those kinds of shots.
So, are you ready? Are you ready to stop putting up with less and risk what you actually feel you deserve?
It’s your choice, sister….
Ladies, if you a struggling with this dilemma, I do mentor around this. I am seeking clients right now who want to own their power. In saying this, this is no small task. You have to be ready. Nothing left to loose. Sick of the bullshit. Ready to level up and flip the script.
If you are interested and you want to talk to me, I have not only lived through this shit, overcome it, I’m in a relationship where I don’t bang my head against a wall asking these questions. It took me being this version of woman to wake up and give myself more. You can have what you want, if you are willing to stop compromising and value yourself more than a man values you.